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I finally met my dear friend's newborn and I could do nothing else but smell the child. I wanted to steal her youth. Just kidding. I'm pretty young myself. I had a birthday about 10 days ago and can't help but think of my friends birthday party.

Let me go into some background. I've never had alot of girlfriends but since high school, i've had 2 friends. There were more of us but things happen and people suck. So they only ones that have stuck around have been the 3 of us. In early December of 2006 the oldest of us turned 22. It was a grey goose/cranberry juice/ red bull fueled night of fun culminating in taco cabana madness

. The following Monday, which happened to be finals week, the previous weekends birthday girl called me in tears. It was around 9am and I'm sitting in a computer lab waiting for my English final to begin. I tried my best to whisper and calm her down, but I'm almost positive that all my classmates heard what she was saying.

"I'm making you a 'nina sooner than we expected," she sobbed from across town.

I didnt really grasp what she was saying as I was trying to remember the appropriate style of a termination letter. It was just beyond surreal. I kind of thought she was kidding or desperate for attention or maybe just so stressed out she tricked herself. It would've have been the first time. She's woken me up several times on Saturday mornings because she didnt want to take a pregnancy test at home. So I said, "huh?"

What she was saying just didn't register right away. It was like she was speaking German. It was like those sci fi movies where the robot just says "DOES NOT COMPUTE"

Finally, after about a minute of silence, I said, "Oh my Gah, Well...ummm... Thats...Congratulations."

She cried harder. And I mean harder. Loud sobbing. So loud actually that the proctor asked me to finish the call outside. I stepped into the hallway.

"So what's the plan?" I asked her, "Will you and (baby's daddy name ommited for privacy) get married? I can totally see you in a winter wonderland wedding?" (it was an attempt and keeping her from crying) "Picture it. You can be in a beautiful cream dress with a veil that looks like it is made from ice crystals and ___ would be in a really classic tuxedo. We need to find you a church with a center aisle..." I just kep rambling about the wedding.

"No. I dont know what I'm going to do. If we get married, its probably not going to be any time soon."

"Thats probably a good idea. You don't want to be a fat bride."

She laughed. Thank GOD she laughed at that.

"Lets think about it. How are we going to work this out?"

After about 5 more minutes of talking and psuedo planning, we came to the conclusion that she'll need some time to think over her options.

I popped back into the Lab. The test had already started but I punched in my memo using the template in Word in about 10 minutes.

I ended up getting a C in that class. It was worth it.

Now, the baby belongs to the world. She's itty bitty and just darling. Her due date was actually my birthday, but she was born about a week before. She's absolutely darling.

In contrast to my friend's 22nd birthday, I had a murder mystery party which was written by Liana(2nd oldest friend). She did an amazing job, but it was less drunk, less wild. It didnt involve that balcony/VIP room of a nightclub nor did it include throwing up in the parking garage. I was at home surrounded by people in 1920s garb and drinking red wine.

I guess when one person grows up, the rest of the group does also. Now we're all obsessed with having real jobs and  babies which are all around us and weddings which are all over television and contemporary furniture and mortgages, health insurance and doing laundry. It so odd. We're not those MTV-ers that you see on Spring Break. We're the same age as those kids, but we're years away.

 I'm an insurance agent, and as much as I dislike where I work, I like how much security and room to grow it provides. I'm studying economics because it is essencially the study of trade offs. What's more important to me right now: the future or the present? Thats the real trade off. Forego, immediate gratification for a better future or postpone thinking about the future and suffer the consequences down the line.

Who are our role models? Hard partiers? 20 year olds in rehab? Jailbirds with DUIs? I'm over it. I hate being judged by the actions of my peers. Maybe its a Mexican thing. Hard work is what I know because that is what i've been exposed to. It shouldnt be a shock to older adults when they see a young woman working. It should be the norm. Hard work builds character. It makes you stronger and probably bitter. But like chocolate, I think people are better when they're a little bitter. 

I dont want a baby tomorrow or within the next couple of years, but if that is what is in the card for me I'm prepared. Are you, Kristen Cavalerri(SP)?